The Setup
This is a workbook, not something to scroll through. You're going to write in it, think about it, and probably call yourself out a few times. If you just read it and move on, you kind of missed the point.
Month 1 is all about getting brutally honest with yourself. Before you start chasing bigger goals, you need to know what you're actually working with.
You can fill it out right here, download it, or have it sent to you. I don't care how you do it. Since you're already here, don't skip the work.
This is Month 1. You can start here anytime — the modules don't expire. Joining in September or December? Start at G regardless. The arc builds on itself.
Reality Check
Here's something I've noticed. Most of us aren't stuck because we're lazy or untalented. We're stuck because we're trying to build ten things at once.
It's usually not a skill problem. We already know how to do the work. The problem is we've got fifteen tabs open in our brains, and we call it ambition.
The brand. The content. The side hustle. The project that's been “almost finished” for six months. The relationship we've been meaning to invest in. The gym. The money. The list just keeps growing.
When everything feels important, nothing gets our full attention. So we stay busy. We make progress... kind of. Then we look around and wonder how someone with half our potential somehow keeps moving twice as fast.
That's what this month is really about. Not doing more. Figuring out what actually deserves our time, energy, and focus.
Before we talk about growth, we've got to figure out what's actually getting in the way. Most of us skip that part. We assume we know the problem, so we jump straight to the solution.
“I need to post more.”
“I need a better manager.”
“I need to move cities.” Maybe.
But half the time we're trying to fix the wrong thing. We spend months pouring energy into something that was never the bottleneck, while the thing that actually would've moved our life sits untouched.
This was me. I have a giant whiteboard, a corkboard covered in sticky notes, colour-coded systems, release dates, gig schedules... everything looked organized. If you walked into my crib, you'd probably think I had it all figured out. The funny part? I was organized. I just wasn't focused. When I finally got through some of these exercises myself, I realized I'd been optimizing for activity instead of impact. I wasn't missing a system. I was missing clarity. That's exactly why this month exists.
There are only three things we're trying to do this month.
That's it. Everything below is designed to help you do exactly that.
And one last thing… put your phone in another room.
The Blueprint
Each month has its own blueprint. For Growth, these are the three books that shaped the exercises you're about to work through. If you ever want to go deeper, they're absolutely worth the read.
Think of this as the curated version. Instead of asking you to read three full books before getting started, I pulled together the lessons, exercises, and frameworks that fit this month's theme — so you can spend more time doing the work than collecting information.
Creativity isn’t a gift. It’s a muscle. Most of us weren’t born believing we couldn’t build something — we learned it. The good news? We can unlearn it the same way. One small rep at a time.
Before you try to fix your life, make sure you’re fixing the right problem. Use the Life Dashboard to see where you actually stand, then separate what’s fixable from the Gravity Problems that aren’t.
One question drives this entire book: “What’s the ONE thing I can do such that by doing it, everything else becomes easier or unnecessary?” Stop trying to move fifteen things. Find the first domino.
How they stack:Here's how they fit together. Creative Confidence helps you believe change is possible. Designing Your Life helps you get honest about where you are. The ONE Thing helps you decide what deserves your attention first. That's the system — believe, get honest, focus. Everything else in this workbook is built on those three ideas.
The Work
Six exercises. Don't overthink them. Just answer honestly. Give yourself 45–60 minutes. One sitting is ideal, but if life gets in the way, chip away at it over the week.
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Rate each area of your life right now, 0 to 10. Not where it was, not where you want it to be. Today.
Most people score Work a 7 and Play a 2 and wonder why they feel dead inside. The dashboard doesn't lie. You do, to yourself, until you write it down.
List the 3 to 5 things you tell yourself are “the problem” right now. All of them. The real complaints.
This one exercise is worth the whole month. Ambitious people spend years shadowboxing gravity and call it grinding.
Track what you do and how it actually hits you. You read energy in every room you're in — turn that skill inward.
“Good at it” and “energized by it” are not the same thing. The stuff you're skilled at but secretly hate is what's quietly burning you out. Build toward the flow. Design around the drain.
Right now, the main work you do — you relate to it as a:
No wrong answer. Just notice it. Then aim.
Money's easy to measure, which is why it makes most decisions by default. The work is giving weight to the other two without going broke. The overlap is where you stop having to choose.
You've got a dashboard, a clean list of what's worth your energy, a read on your fuel, and your sweet spot. Now aim all of it at one question.
“What's the ONE thing I can do in the next 90 days such that by doing it, everything else gets easier or unnecessary?”
Don't answer fast. A good answer is big AND specific. “Make more content” is a direction, not a domino. “Finish and release the 5-track project that becomes my signature calling card” — that's a domino.
The things that matter in your work — gigs, drops, release dates — you protect that time. Give your ONE Thing the same respect.
That's the green light. You don't need to feel ready. You start, and confidence shows up after.
Lock In
The original plan was for me and the homies to meet once a month. We'd talk through our goals, be honest about where we dropped the ball, decide what mattered most for the next month, and keep each other accountable until we met again. That's the piece I don't want you to skip.
Find one person you trust. Not a group chat. One person who's actually willing to check in, call you out when you need it, and keep you moving.
5-minute check-in. Did I do what I said I was going to do this week? If not… what got in the way?
Monthly reset. Sit down together. Walk through the workbook. What actually moved? What’s your ONE Thing for next month?
No stress. Drop your email below and I'll check in halfway through the month. No newsletter. No spam. Just a reminder that someone else knows you're trying.
This was built as a buddy system. If you don't have your person yet, drop your email and I'll check in on you halfway through the month. Not a newsletter. Just a nudge.
The Bullshit Meter
Before you move on to Ownership, call yourself out. Nobody else is watching. That's the whole point.
You started. Don’t lie to yourself about the gaps. Find the lowest score and fix it before August.
Next
You just did something most people avoid. You got honest with yourself. You figured out what's actually worth your energy, what isn't, and you chose the ONE thing that deserves your attention first. That's Growth.
Now comes the hard part. Next month is O: Ownership — where you stop letting your calendar, your inbox, and everyone else's priorities decide how your time gets spent. You already know what matters. Next month is about proving it.
See you in August. Don't lose momentum.